Love, Actually?

'God gave us two ears to hear, two eyes to see and two hands to hold. But why did 

God give us only one heart? Because he wants us to find the other one.'

 'Is the word "love" important?

I don't know but for me, you are more important.

Do you know why?

Because how can I say "I love you" if you're not here.'

'No matter how many times I get hurt because of you, I won't leave you. Because 

even if I have a hundred reasons to leave you, I'll look for that one reason to fight for 

you.'

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So what is love actually? As is said about love in the movie Captain Corelli's Mandolin,

"When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the desire to mate every second of the day. It is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every part of your body. No... don't blush. I am telling you some truths. For that is just being in love; which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over, when being in love has burned away... (Iannis to Pelagia)"  

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Love, definitely, as Shakespeare said  is a smoke risen from fumes of sighs. It is a beautiful feeling, one that cannot be expressed in words, something that every person defines in his own way. No one can explain what it is, is it the fights, the arguments? The crazyness? The laughs, the tears? I don't know. What I'm trying to say is love does happen, and it just can be felt, not expressed verbally. When you fall in love, it seems to last till eternity, the person you love becomes the 'only one' you could ever imagine yourself to be with. After a while, it sometimes happens, the 'excitement', the 'good feeling' starts to die out and you realize that you don't love your 'eternal partner' that much. THE DOUBT SETS IN.

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You love that person, but you don't. You care for her too much to leave her and break her heart. But still, you don't want to be with her, you cannot be with her. There is love, but you can't feel it. You have to try to love her. LOVE AIN'T TRYING. So, what is wrong?? Was it love??Or was it just a strong urge to have someone that you overlooked the facts. And now it is playing back on you. It is as if you made yourself fall in love for just sake of it. You want to free but you can't hurt her. You have to end  it because your inner self is not allowing you to do injustice to your partner. But then HOW DO YOU LEAVE A PERSON YOU NO MORE LOVE, AS YOU "LOVE" HIM OR HER TOO MUCH?? That is one thing that has been continuously been playing in my mind, and as far as I see, there is no copy book solution to it. Every time it is different, and every way to deal a breakup is unique,as every relationship is unique, IT HURTS THOUGH, TO HAVE A BREAKUP, BUT IT IS FAR BETTER THAN SPOILING EACH OTHER'S LIFE AND FEELINGS.That is because you cannot love someone until you really LOVE him or her.Here's a little poem to sum everything up....

I saw you, I loved you,

I touched you, I hugged you,

We laughed, We cried,

My heart was on your side,

It was madness,

It was LOVE,

I felt it all the more,

But I don't know,

It is loosing its shine how,

I love u, so how do I tell you,

That all those things,

I no more feel, I no more do,

You have a soft heart,

that can not be shattered,

Coz you, your heart still matters,

But It's not you, It's ME,

I want to move to be free,

I'm sorry Baby, I do love you,

But for the good, I can't be with you.

I know it is real hard, as you care, and hurting someone you care is difficult. But sometimes in life, for the genuinity of feelings, of situations, it is necessary to overlook the pain it might cause, because as they say 'Love Happens only Once'...so it has to be true, ain't it??

GO WALK IN THE WILDERNESS PEOPLE!!! 

SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT....

Exams, Exams, Exams…..yeah I had left the blogging world for a month voluntarily, so that I could write answers in the exams as long as my blog posts..!! But of course my “Posts” on the answer sheets didn’t invite the evaluator to take a walk in the wilderness...Hehehe.

Anyways, as I was wondering about what my new blog post would be about, I happened to find an old collection of poems that I wrote quite some time ago. Let me tell you that I write poems as well, when I am on an emotional roller coaster. Most of the times, call it a coincidence, my poetic creations are about life.

So, without any more ‘how I became a poet’, I have put up one of my very first poems, entitled “Life- A Philosophy”. Here it goes……

The life is not a bundle of roses always,

There are happy and a pinch of sad days,

It is musical at times,

And at full brightness it shines...

Pouring colors into itself bold,

Soaring high as it tells the story untold...

But then it shows some colors contrast,

Making u wish it had gone fast...

It gives u some tough encounters,

Leaving you High and dry,

When having someone with you mattered...

It tests you hard, it tests you bad,

In a way of dreams sad...

But in the end it’s your life

That proves its worth and takes your side,

It says i am your best friend,

I won’t leave you till I myself end....

It makes you realize,

That it comes hard at you

Only to make you more wise,

To make you know its value, it’s worth

And then to finally to make you

The happiest person on this Earth...

Liked it, didn’t you?? I know I know…..thanks a lot! Anyways, my coming blog posts would be more or less around my poems (I thought why not let you show my poetic bend as well).

GO WALK IN THE WILDERNESS PEOPLE..!!!

'Cause Men Don't Cry

‘Hey look! How he cries like a girl...Kya rotlu hai be!! (What a cry baby he is!)’

‘Look at you man, Abey, how can you cry like this?’

Often, in this hypocrite society, guys are meant to be the tough ones. By default, it is presumed, that a man cannot be sentimental and if so, he becomes a weak or a lame person by the standard definition. Excuse Me? Who are you to decide this?

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I’d been thinking about this post a lot, but I always fell short of words and hence the POST was being continuously POSTponed :-p. Anyways, without any further delay, coming back to my post. Hmmm…. men don’t cry. Why cannot they? Well, I’ll give you a plenty of reasons why they can.

Well, let me tell you that even men have feelings, even men have sentiments, and EVEN MEN HAVE A HEART THAT FEELS. But yes, this is and has been overlooked and neglected always.They are always supposed to be composed and in control of their emotions, for they have to console or handle the women! Or maybe anyone else who is - well - not so composed. Not necessary. For bottling up the emotions leads to stress, which is why most of us men have more heart attacks than women! Seriously!

Recently, one of my friends was feeling utterly low. So like the good friend that I am, I asked him what it is that is bothering him. He told me he had been in a relationship for a couple of months, with a girl who in his words, was the most adorable person anyone could have. But, although she always said that she loved him, all she did was to make him realize that he is not like others, or that he did not have any impressive qualities. Even though he felt bad, he never let her know that. “I want to cry, but what would she think of me? What if anyone sees me crying? I don’t want others to make fun of me...” he said. I felt bad for him and I was shocked at the pressure, a simple unwritten rule about being tough could put on a ‘Man’….a human being. I wanted to tell him Hey dude! Go and cry your heart out. Don’t give a shit about what people think, but then you see the manly egos that we have, stopped me from saying that…. ;-p.

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 I myself have been through a lot of emotional ups and downs in the recent past and even I had the same feeling…No man, you’re a guy, you cannot cry…(yeah, even I do that! :|), because we grow up in a society where we are taught this. We hate it, yet we have to live in it. And then, one day I remembered my own words (My advises are normally for others, I don’t follow them...) Hey go and cry your heart out. Don’t give a fuck to what people think. That day, I cried. I cried a lot. Feelings are meant to be expressed not to store inside…and yeah, I didn’t feel that I was weak or lame. In fact, I never felt better!

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 So, even men can cry, because they’re human beings first. When they could cry as a child without worrying about the consequences, then why not now? They are still the same person; people around would still love them. So guys, go ahead. Express yourself, CRY OUT LOUD (But don’t start at the same time, we don’t want a flooded world, fellas… ;-)

GO WALK IN THE WILDERNESS PEOPLE!!!

Bald & Beautiful...

Hmmm........My first ever blog post.The thought itself thrills me to the core!! I just made an unplanned jump into the blog world, so pardon me if I get amateurish with my thoughts [but you would love them still....!! :P ;) ]

So, coming on to my blog topic without anymore How-I-came-here story, "BALD & BEAUTIFUL"(Interesting Name, isn't it??). I have no idea how I ended up with this title, but I have been giving it a thought for a while now.

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I recently lost my maternal Grandma... :( who was one of the best persons I could have ever had in my life. So as are the traditions, men directly related to that person need to shave their hair off and go bald. As a child, at one occasion when I had to do the same, I never liked it (and who likes to?). Not that I am disrespecting the traditions, but I always wanted to know why it is so. Whats with the hair?? So when I had to shave my hair off recently, I decided to find the reason behind it. 

Come, take a walk with me through the wilderness of what I found....

In Hinduism, it is believed that the first person to meet with death was YAMA and this dubious honor makes him the only person [though he has more of a Lord status... ;)] who can guide other mortals to death. He has the sole authority of passing judgments on other mortals who follow him to the Heaven or to Hell where they are treated according to their life and doings prior to death. A good life prior to your death ensures you the Swarga, where there is everlasting enjoyment of all the heavenly pleasures, include the restoration of a sick body, the maintaining of family relations and the highly desired apotheosis  whereas a person who is judged not to be good goes to the Naraka, where they are punished aptly for their wrong doings.

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Hindus believe that when a person dies, he needs to be burnt so that the soul can be released from the mortal world. Not only that, they follow a twelve day ritual called shraadh, which is an attempt to please the guide king YAMA, as it is believed that the soul would reach to its destiny on the twelfth day. In this pursuit of pleasing, they offer their hair to the king so that he would be lenient to the departed soul. 

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This offering, modified, turned and twisted over the ages to as it is today, where all the men related to the departed soul should shave their hair. AND BALD IS INDEED BEAUTIFUL, ISN'T IT??

GO WALK IN THE WILDERNESS PEOPLE...!!!