'Cause Men Don't Cry

‘Hey look! How he cries like a girl...Kya rotlu hai be!! (What a cry baby he is!)’

‘Look at you man, Abey, how can you cry like this?’

Often, in this hypocrite society, guys are meant to be the tough ones. By default, it is presumed, that a man cannot be sentimental and if so, he becomes a weak or a lame person by the standard definition. Excuse Me? Who are you to decide this?

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I’d been thinking about this post a lot, but I always fell short of words and hence the POST was being continuously POSTponed :-p. Anyways, without any further delay, coming back to my post. Hmmm…. men don’t cry. Why cannot they? Well, I’ll give you a plenty of reasons why they can.

Well, let me tell you that even men have feelings, even men have sentiments, and EVEN MEN HAVE A HEART THAT FEELS. But yes, this is and has been overlooked and neglected always.They are always supposed to be composed and in control of their emotions, for they have to console or handle the women! Or maybe anyone else who is - well - not so composed. Not necessary. For bottling up the emotions leads to stress, which is why most of us men have more heart attacks than women! Seriously!

Recently, one of my friends was feeling utterly low. So like the good friend that I am, I asked him what it is that is bothering him. He told me he had been in a relationship for a couple of months, with a girl who in his words, was the most adorable person anyone could have. But, although she always said that she loved him, all she did was to make him realize that he is not like others, or that he did not have any impressive qualities. Even though he felt bad, he never let her know that. “I want to cry, but what would she think of me? What if anyone sees me crying? I don’t want others to make fun of me...” he said. I felt bad for him and I was shocked at the pressure, a simple unwritten rule about being tough could put on a ‘Man’….a human being. I wanted to tell him Hey dude! Go and cry your heart out. Don’t give a shit about what people think, but then you see the manly egos that we have, stopped me from saying that…. ;-p.

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 I myself have been through a lot of emotional ups and downs in the recent past and even I had the same feeling…No man, you’re a guy, you cannot cry…(yeah, even I do that! :|), because we grow up in a society where we are taught this. We hate it, yet we have to live in it. And then, one day I remembered my own words (My advises are normally for others, I don’t follow them...) Hey go and cry your heart out. Don’t give a fuck to what people think. That day, I cried. I cried a lot. Feelings are meant to be expressed not to store inside…and yeah, I didn’t feel that I was weak or lame. In fact, I never felt better!

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 So, even men can cry, because they’re human beings first. When they could cry as a child without worrying about the consequences, then why not now? They are still the same person; people around would still love them. So guys, go ahead. Express yourself, CRY OUT LOUD (But don’t start at the same time, we don’t want a flooded world, fellas… ;-)

GO WALK IN THE WILDERNESS PEOPLE!!!